She Talked

Tonight’s “She Talked” is the gorgeous Natalie Lands; woman, wife, mother and proud owner of Adelaide’s brand newest venue “Ten22” I have only met this gal a handful of times but she feels like an old friend! Her generosity, spirit, passion and drive for excellence and a taste for class is captivating. Not only does she juggle the role of all three hats she is gearing up for the launch of her “third” baby – a boutique Spanish flavored home away from home!

A virtual round of applause for tonight’s company x x

What would your best friend say about you?
Interesting! I called her up as I find this question most embarrassing! This is what she said! “Friendly, balanced, wise, hospitable, easy-going, generous & helpful” Awww I have the most beautiful friends!!!

Tell us about your typical day in a few sentences?
Each day really is so different. Must have a caffeine hit first thing in the morning! I do the morning drop kids off to school, then hit the office running. I love showing people thru our venue. Its exciting meeting new people and talking about how we can help make their event extra special.

What is one thing that is taking up a lot of your “though” life?
For this season the venue is probably taking most of my thought life! We want our venue to go above and beyond every expectation. From the service we give people, to the food we serve to the atmosphere that is created for each event. So a lot of time and thought is taken on how we can achieve the best experience for our clients.

If you could go back and tell your 15yr old self one thing, what would it be?
To be strong and courageous, and not let self doubt and intimidation hold me back.

What is the most helpful piece of advice anyone has given you?
“The smaller fish are always the sweetest” Even the smallest of things are often the most important and most rewarding!

If you created a bumper bar sticker what would it say?
“The smaller fish are always the sweetest”

What is one tip you would give for balancing your personal and professional life?
I think this is always a challenge and still a working progress but I try to always keep perspective on what is really important in life. For me its my family, the people I love. And always remembering at the end of each day there’s’ always another! Knowing time management, when its work time its work, and when its family time work is nowhere to be seen!

When you are down in the dumps how do you get yourself back up?
Phone a friend ha ha ! Literally! I’m not the kind of person to hold things in I have to get my thoughts & feelings out. I have some beautiful people in my life that I trust and will always give great perspective! Other than that a piece of chocolate & cup of tea does go a long way!

What couldn’t you live without?
My toothbrush!

What is one of the proudest moments of your life?
Giving birth to my two beautiful children! I know it sounds cliché but it took approximately 12 years to fall pregnant, so I feel so blessed to have them!

What is your definition of success and/or failure?

This is a very deep question ! My moTto is always “if at first you don’t succeed try & try again.” Never give up on your dreams.

What gets you fired up?
Injustice

How do you nurture ALL of you?
At the moment I don’t think I do!! Really need to work on that! Any tips?

Seinfeld or Friends?
Both

Hamish or Andy?
How can you separate them?! Both so funny!

What has been your favourite travel destination and why?
Haven’t really travelled a lot so if my husband is reading this PARIS PLEASE!!!!!

What character of a movie would you LOVE to play?
Angelina Jolie in tomb raider! Would love to do all those stunts!

In your business, what is the most rewarding experience?
Being a part of someone’s’ special day & celebration in their life. A significant commitment, a special celebration, a birthday….its a real honour to be part of it.

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More than just “Mummy”

One of the greatest joys in my life is being a mum.  I will always be a mum. The joys of that are never far from my mind because I experience them everyday (well most days).  However sometimes what we do forget is the “she” part of us – the woman, who is a mother and so much more. But, because we can go so long without thinking or practicing the ‘so much more’ part we can forget what that actually is.

I often reflect on the lioness, whenever she kills something in the wild she feasts first and then the cubs have what is left over. She doesn’t eat first because she thinks she is most important, she knows that if she doesn’t sustain herself then she can’t sustain and protect her cubs.  I think this metaphor is beautiful and worth reflecting on for all mothers; if you put time and energy into YOURSELF then everyone benefits! Why? Simply because you feel more alive!

So how do we ‘feed’ ourselves? Tough question when I spend most days putting a baby to sleep, transporting his sister to and from kindy, and doing a continuous clean up of my kitchen! If I get a latte in its a great day! But I know how much better I feel (and am) as a mum, wife, friend and everything else if I manage to ‘feed’ myself at some point.  Even the occasional walk at the beach, shallot cakes with my bestie, dip in the ocean with my husband, or shaking my booty at my friends chakra dance class all feed that ‘she’ part of me.  They put a spring back in my step and remind me of who I am as a woman and what I love. Without question that is my family, but I love friends, eating out, dancing, movies and deep and meaningful conversations too!

So when we make our way out of the baby haze and start to ponder, “Who am I now?” it can be an exciting time.  The more time you spend with yourself the easier these answers will be to find.  We want to meld the beauty that motherhood has brought to our lives with the essence of who we are.

So the questions I will leave you with are:

1. How do/can you ‘feed’ yourself?

2. Who are you, and what do you want your life to be about?

Rebecca Paul is a Principal Counsellor at Eshé Counselling. She has been counselling for over 10 years and is passionate about helping individuals achieve the best LIFE possible. Rebecca specialises in all things “she” related including marriage and relationships and provides the space and expertise for women navigating through a variety of issues. You can see her website here http://www.eshecounselling.com.au or book an appointment by calling her on this number 0433 792 705